Rejected!

I wanna talk about rejection.

Discussing this topic is tricky without exposing yourself to the risk of more of it.

But I think it'll be worth it. :)
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We've all experienced forms of it.

Job interviews, friendships, dreams, lost relationships, closed doors, etc, etc.

That sinking moment, when you have finally had enough courage to put your heart on the line and expose a notion or possibility that you deem worthy of risking...and that idea is rejected. Passed up. Overlooked. Not wanted.

Incapable of tears, you are initially shocked that you actually pushed yourself to be brave and was met with a big, "no" sign. Just keep moving and distracting yourself and it might not be so bad...Until  one day it hits you like a ton of bricks.

You are human. You have real emotions and feelings and every now and then you will have to experience them. No matter how strong you are. Feeling the effects of a rejection does not mean you lack confidence or worse....that you really are as worthless as your rejection led you to believe.

Sometimes that rejection is brought on by timing, or life circumstances. Often is it accompanied by insecurities or fear. Occasionally it is plainly, you. You that is not desired by another. Ouch.

The source of that rejection may try to cushion your fall. It may tell you that you are cool after all, or you seem like you could be a qualified candidate, give you a "it's not you, it's me" speech and send you on your way. Society often likes to send the message that rejection is less painful if the whole truth is not revealed in one punch.

What I want to say on this topic is as follows, rejection hurts.  It has a serious way of messing with your head and if you allow it to, it feeds the lie that we sometimes tell ourselves. The untruth that we are not good enough. That we weren't enough for that opportunity or person. That something is wrong with us and thus we are not worthy of any dreams/hopes/opportunities/thoughts/ relationships/love.

The hurt of rejection can cripple us if we allow it. However, it can also be used to steer us away from unhealthy opportunities or situations. It may take a minute to grieve (and sometimes a minute is much more substantial amount of time) but eventually that sinking feeling will fade.

It will fade when you allow yourself to see past the few choices that you've allowed for yourself. Maybe when you find new jobs to apply for, a new hobby to foster your passion, when you don't have to see that person that hurt you anymore, and maybe when you wake up and remember that you were actually wonderful all along...and sometimes others don't recognize that. This is not an open commentary on why others don't see our potential...because honestly....who cares?!  That's their problem to sort out. They just don't. The opportunities and people who don't recognize our potential aren't the kind that will support us and help us grow.

Gotta let it go. It's alright to be sad for a time. It's normal. It's natural and inevitable. But then, pick yourself back up and take yourself out. Treat yourself with love and not disdain because there will be other BETTER opportunities and people who WILL RECOGNIZE YOUR POTENTIAL. Some of them may already be around you and perhaps you haven't recognized them yet.

The truth is, you're great. You're swell and the you you are is the you that you should be. You are enough because, "But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." 1 Corinthians 12:9.

Embrace the possibilities. There are many to be had.

And when you're on your way, working on new opportunities, something else will find you and embrace you like you deserved all along...and I think that will be worth it...and you may be thankful that that prior situation rejected you because it wasn't best for you after all.

You're worth it and you always will be.

The end.